Focus on the six tips below, and you’ll build leadership in your children and yourself.
We all want our children to grow up to be successful in life. We have made so many mistakes and grown from our trials, sometimes we may wish we knew things earlier or cultivated better habits when we were young.
What we didn’t have for ourselves growing up, we may still impart on our children. Giving our children valuable skills early in life will shape them into formidable leaders in the future.
Here are 6 tips below that can help you do this!
Model Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Emotional intelligence is that “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible; it affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities and make personal decisions that achieve positive results.
Children learn emotional intelligence from their parents, plain and simple.
EQ is one of the biggest drivers of success in leadership positions. TalentSmart has tested more than a million people and found that EQ is responsible for 58% of a leader’s job performance. Likewise, 90% of top-performing leaders have high EQs.
Children who develop a high level of EQ carry these skills into adulthood, and this gives them a leg up in leadership and in life.
Don’t Obsess About Achievement
Parents get sucked into obsessing about achievement because they believe that this will make their children into high-achievers. Instead, fixating on achievement creates all sorts of problems for kids. This is especially true when it comes to leadership, where focusing on individual achievement gives kids the wrong idea about how work gets done.
Simply put, the best leaders surround themselves with great people because they know they can’t do it alone. Achievement-obsessed children are so focused on awards and outcomes that they never fully understand this.
Don’t Praise Too Much
Children need to believe in themselves and to develop the self-confidence required to become successful leaders, but if you gush every time they put pen to paper or kick a ball (the “everyone gets a trophy” mentality), this creates confusion and false confidence. Always show your children how proud you are of their passion and effort; just don’t paint them as superstars when you know it isn’t true.
Allow Them To Experience Risk And Failure
Success in business and in life is driven by risk. When you aren’t allowed to fail, you don’t understand risk.
The road to success is paved with failure. When you try to shield your children from failure in order to boost their self-esteem, they have trouble tolerating the failure required to succeed as a leader. Don’t rub their face in it either. Children need your support when they fail. They need to know you care. They need to know that you know how much failure stings. Your support allows them to embrace the intensity of the experience and to know that they’ll make it through it all right. That, right there, is solid character building for future leaders.
Overindulging children is a surefire way to limit their development as leaders. To succeed as a leader, one must be able to delay gratification and work hard for things that are really important. Children need to develop this patience. Saying no to your children will disappoint them momentarily, but they’ll get over that. They’ll never get over being spoiled.
Let Children Solve Their Own Problems
There’s a certain self-sufficiency that comes with being a leader. When parents constantly solve their children’s problems for them, children never develop the critical ability to stand on their own two feet. Children who always have someone swooping in to rescue them and clean up their mess spend their whole lives waiting for this to happen. Leaders take action. They take charge. They’re responsible and accountable. Make certain your children are as well.
Article Credit: Forbes.com